One Question for Anyone Who’s Stuck in a Rut: What Do You Believe?

“You become what you believe, not what you think or what you want.” ~Oprah Winfrey

What do you believe? During the forced stillness of the pandemic environment we’re all living in, this is a question I’ve been faced with more intensely than ever. In particular, I’ve come to question what I believe about myself, and how that impacts every element of my life.

Coming out of years of self-help for social and general anxiety, a long-standing eating disorder, and several dissatisfying personal relationships, I had to come to question what these external realities reflected back to me. For what you believe about not only your life, but more importantly, yourself, will show up again and again, and yes, again, until you’ve finally addressed the root of the problem.

In my case, my lack of self-value resulted in many dysfunctions and setbacks in my personal and professional world.

My deteriorating self-image led to my eating obsessions, a lack of confidence exacerbated anxieties, and the low value I placed on myself was most likely written all over me, judging by the way others showed disrespect toward me in personal relationships.

Not only was I devaluing who I was, but I also operated from a place of being closed off to others, afraid that if I showed my true self I wouldn’t measure up to their expectations.

This all came to a head when COVID-19 emerged and led to a global lockdown. Going off of numerous negative relationship experiences, I visited a doctor to discover I had a pelvic floor condition called vaginismus, which results in involuntary vaginal muscle tightening that makes sex and physical exams like pap smears either impossible or extremely painful.

I spent the next four months going through physical therapy to heal my body from this condition, breaking off a new relationship to focus completely on my own journey. It amazed me how the mind and body go hand-in-hand; my muscle tightening felt like a total embodiment of years of being closed off to others and remaining safely isolated from sharing my true self.

As I mentioned previously, prior to being diagnosed with vaginismus I’d spent years healing my mental health problems and gaining strength in my career experience.

After high school, I was lost in my career path for a solid period of time, making lukewarm attempts at artistic endeavors such as acting and modeling, never fully prepared to take a leap and fully immerse myself in any one field.

Again, this would require a bearing of my true self that would frighten me just to think about. Not only that, it would mean that I had the nerve to believe I was worthy of attempting a profession that’s reserved for an elite group of “special” people, a group I never considered myself to be a part of.

I did muster up enough courage to move to Los Angeles, however, where I felt I could start a new identity. My Northern California roots felt outdated, and along with some family I sought to better myself with a fresh start.

One of my first steps toward positive changes was a hostessing gig at a bowling alley, which forced me to get out of my shell and be more social for a change. I still felt very self-conscious, but the more I worked on interacting with customers and coworkers, the more I learned how much I loved people.

This further developed when, following a chance Intro to Journalism course I took at Pasadena City College in Southern California, I found a new joy that I wasn’t expecting.

I began to love writing, and not only that, my favorite element of this new career path was interviewing—something I never thought I’d be able to conquer with the severity of my social anxiety, which prevented me from going into grocery stores at its peak

Deep down, I started to believe that something different could be possible for me. Maybe I could break out of my old mindset and turn into the person I’d always felt I was inside: someone who loved people, longed for and accomplished successful interpersonal relationships, and stood in her power, unapologetically.

By January of 2020, I had gained a local job news writing in my home base of Burbank and felt optimistic about the future. After the pandemic hit, however, I went through a time of feeling down during isolation. This paired with the vaginismus diagnosis made me become initially quite frustrated.

“Why is this happening to me?” I wondered. I had done a lot to overcome other personal issues, but now having to do months of diligent, and sometimes extremely painful, physical therapy felt like a punishment that I didn’t deserve.

After a short bit of contemplation, however, I had a real and sudden shift in perspective. I simply thought, “I’ve been through more than this in the past. I’ll get through it.” I believed I could, and from that moment on dedicated myself to healing not only physically, but emotionally as well.

Within four months I made enough progress to end in-person physical therapy appointments, I started blog writing and continued with news writing in Burbank, earned a journalism scholarship over the summer, which I contributed toward my studies, and now have just started my own independent journalism writing website.

The more I believed that I could accomplish my goals, and the more I felt I was worthy of such things, the more I saw everything in the universe work for me, and not against me.

Today I continue to improve my self-image, and I have a long way to go. But overall, I feel healed from where I once was.

I’m pursuing my passions, now unashamed to show and share who I truly am.

I demonstrate a great deal of self-respect in personal relationships, no longer tolerating poor treatment from others who don’t consider my worth.

My diet and exercise habits are healthier, my vaginismus treatment is complete, and, although I still have to maintain physical therapy exercises, I feel grateful for where I’m at in that regard and in every aspect of my life.

If you had asked me five years ago, prior to all of this self-improvement, what I believed about myself and my life, I probably would have said I had a promising future ahead, although my actions and interactions continuously showed otherwise.

This is why I feel I’m at a much more positive place in life at this moment.

Not only do I propose that I believe positive things about myself, but I now show it through my actions.

I no longer want respect, I demand it.

I no longer want to pursue my goals wholeheartedly, I now do it as much as I can every day.

And not only do I dream of expressing the truth of who I am, I embody it.

So, if you too feel like you’re stuck in a rut in your life, if you feel that the world isn’t treating you fairly, and if you don’t like what the universe is showing you, then I urge you to ask yourself:

What do you believe? About yourself? Your worth? Your life? Your potential?

What do you believe about what you deserve, in relationships and in your career, and what you can accomplish if you try?

How do those beliefs affect how you show up in the world—the decisions you make, the chances you take, the things you tolerate, and the habits you follow each day?

What would you differently if you challenged your beliefs and recognized they’re not facts?

And what can you differently today to create a different outcome for tomorrow?

These are the questions that shape our lives because our beliefs drive our choices, which ultimately determine who we become.

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What People Actually Mean When They Say ‘Get Over Yourself’

Have you ever had someone tell you to “get over yourself?” This is a phrase that people use when they feel a person is focusing solely on themselves and possibly complaining too much about things.

Someone might also say this to you if they feel you are bragging or could be a little more humble. This statement comes from their perception of you and how they view your life.

Does this make them right? Should you get over yourself? What the heck does that even mean? The answers to all that can be found by keeping things in perspective.

So what does getting over yourself even mean? It means that you might want to make shifts in your perspective that result in behavioral changes. These behavioral changes will help you take yourself less seriously, look at problems with a new lens, and take steps to develop yourself. Do it because you realize these things might make your life more fulfilling, not just because someone else told you to!

Keep things in perspective

Getting over yourself has a lot to do with your perspective on things. Are you so focused on a particular outcome that you lose sight of the big picture? Are you speaking to yourself negatively?

In order to get over yourself, and get out of your own head, you have to change how you view things. For example, if you are complaining because things do not seem to go the way you want them to, really examine why that is.

Having an introspective conversation, based on fact, and not the internal monologue in your head will help you complain out loud less. This makes it less likely that someone’s response would be to “get over yourself.”

We get ourselves into these negative patterns of thinking for a few reasons. It could be because you aren’t putting in the work, but are still expecting a successful result. Maybe you are so determined to be on one path that you are missing the fact that you should do something entirely different.

When we treat minor problems as if they are long-term issues, it is easy to get in our way. According to registered psychotherapist Louise Parkinson, “A problem is only a problem when we decide it’s a problem.”

Coming to terms with this will help you get over the roadblocks you have placed in front of yourself, and will go a long way in helping you to be happier. Losing perspective can lead to worry, anxiety, and depression, but shifting your perspective can help you find alternative ways of understanding the challenges that you are facing. This shift can be one of gratitude, serving others, or deciding to work harder, all of which can bring you closer to finding meaning and make you happier.

Ask yourself:

  • Will this matter a week from now? Or a month? Or a year?
  • Am I making this bigger than it needs to be?
  • Why does this matter so much to me?

“One cannot control the actions of others, but we are responsible for what we do. People say things such as, “I can’t do this,” “it is not really me,” “this makes me uncomfortable,” etc. People, simply put, opt out of playing the game or doing so in a way that will make them successful. So get over yourself, and do what you need to do – and what, by the way, others around you are doing, to become more powerful.” – Jeffrey Pfeffer

Transcend the person you have conditioned yourself to be

These types of thoughts don’t happen overnight. We spend a lifetime telling our brain how to perceive and react to certain situations. I come from a background of childhood trauma and abandonment. For the longest time, when people wouldn’t answer me right away, I assumed it was because they were mad at me. This would happen even if the person had no reason to be mad at me.

I had to learn to get over myself and realize that not everything in someone else’s day revolved around whatever feelings they were having toward me. That doesn’t mean that my feelings and emotions weren’t valid, because everyone’s feelings matter! There are many reasons people don’t respond right away. They could be in a meeting, they could be away from their phone, they might even just be taking a nap.

None of these things have anything to do with you. It’s your perception of how worthy you are that clouds that your judgment. Sometimes, you need to actually build your self-esteem to get over yourself! This means changing your perspective to look toward what completes your life and not worrying about how you fit into everyone else’s.

“The path to self-esteem lies in getting over yourself. There is nothing to esteem about our smaller dramas; it’s our commitment to something beyond ourselves that is truly estimable to ourselves and others.” – Marianne Williamson

Don’t be so serious, we all make mistakes

Part of getting over yourself typically means that you don’t take yourself so seriously. So, if you do something incorrectly or embarrass yourself, just know there shouldn’t be any shame in your game.

I tripped up the stairs (yup; you read that right; I fell upstairs and not down them) once when I was in high school. It felt like everyone who was anyone saw me. I remember being beat red and embarrassed, but I stood up with tears in my eyes, dusted my pants off, and looked at my friend.

Before she could say anything, I laughed, and said, “Well, I fall down often enough to know I am a klutz, but it must take actual skill to fall up the stairs.” No one else said anything, but I am sure a few kids snickered. I didn’t care, the incident wasn’t worth any attention or extra thought.

After all, I am just one person in a sea of many, who took a tumble. There was no reason that needed to occupy my day. It has always been my philosophy to find humor in my mishaps.

The trauma of my childhood gave me a different perspective than most of my peers. They were worried about being embarrassed or made fun of and being popular. I didn’t want to become an addict like my mother who had left me behind and made as many decisions as I could to be different.

This often led to people thinking I was awkward, or that I thought I was smarter than everyone. It made for an uncomfortable high school experience, but it taught me a lot about perspective.

Now, when you have wronged someone else, or done something that requires an apology, you might want to skip the laughter. Instead, put your pride aside, and offer a sincere apology.

This doesn’t mean that you are weak, this means that you can get over yourself long enough to do the right thing. Apologizing when we are wrong helps build trust and strengthen our existing relationships. It will also make you more approachable and create deeper friendships.

Doesn’t that sound more enjoyable than being the person who is always right, because they take themselves so seriously, and can’t fathom making a mistake?

“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles.” – Gautama Buddha

Face your fear

Our fears can cause us to avoid things we shouldn’t and hold us back from living the life we want. This can turn into us complaining about life, which might elicit the response, “get over yourself,” from someone else. Fears are difficult to get over, but when they stop you from advancing in your career, your health, or your relationships then you should definitely try to get over yourself!

According to Amy Morin, LCSW, “If you find that your fear holds you back or creates bigger problems in your life, facing your fear may help you learn to better cope with the fear and ultimately overcome it. Common ways of facing your fears are evaluating the risks, creating an action plan, seeing a therapist, and being sure not to completely avoid your fears.”

Do you complain about life because of something you are afraid to do? Do you hate that job, and want to leave to become a baker, but you are afraid of failure? Fear of change holds so many of us back from our dreams, but a simple change of perspective can help!

Instead of asking, “What happens if I fail,” ask yourself what could happen if you succeed. What if your bakery shop exceeds your wildest imagination? What would life look like then? This perspective shift will help you get over yourself in the best way! It is your choice which path you take, so be brave, and take a leap.

Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” – Wayne Dyer

“Get over yourself” might start out as a phrase that someone hurls in your direction. However, keeping things in perspective, or learning to shift your perspective, can help you get over yourself in ways that are productive and help you live a more fulfilled and happy life.

I think we can all get behind getting over ourselves if we do it in a way that makes life better for ourselves and our loved ones. Share some stories about how you got over yourself for the better in the comment section below.

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Why Goals Increase Your Sense of Purpose

Having a specific purpose gives us something concrete to strive for, which when achieved, provides us with a sense of fulfillment. Purpose gives us the motivation and inspiration to press on toward our goals. 

Purpose is our anchor that keeps us from wavering back and forth; and, instead, points us toward the road to fulfilling our heart’s desire.

We get directions when we have a destination in mind; in the same way when we have a specific purpose, we get specific results. That’s an advantage of finding purpose in our lives. We will see specific results because we have something to pursue.

Without a specific purpose, there is nothing to pursue. In these instances, it is extremely difficult to see specific results. Narrowing and clearly identifying our intention directs us to attain very specific results because a purpose-driven mentality does the following:

  • Instills faith that we can achieve.
  • Forces us to plan-map out our steps/our route/our agenda.
  • Gives us a clear vision of what we are attempting to achieve so we are better equipped to make decisions and revisions along the way.
  • Provides focus and a sense of control instead of chaos and confusion.

Instills Faith That We Can Achieve

Why a Specific Purpose Leads To Specific Results

Identifying our purpose provides us with a mission. It gives us a cause to champion; putting us on the offensive, helping us to recognize our potential, see possibilities, and believe that we can achieve our heart’s desire. This positive outlook helps us to justify why we do what we do and encourages us to keep reaching for our goals.

With this self-esteem, we are more likely to recognize the value of our purpose and not simply why we do it. We start to realize its significance and effect on those around us and the world in general. It reveals the rewards and recognition we can earn, motivating us to move forward.

Having that clear and detailed purpose will then be the starting point to propel us to achieving the goals we want; instead of wandering from project to project without ever experiencing a feeling of accomplishment.

Selecting a purpose sets the scope, breadth, and depth of our mission. Without this, we can easily lose our faith because we are unsure of what we want, what we are trying to accomplish, and just how to get it.

Having a Specific Purpose Forces Us To Plan

Achieving our purpose is like going on the trip of a lifetime and doing or seeing that thing that you only fantasized about before. We typically don’t set out without some direction or road map.

Why a Specific Purpose Leads To Specific Results

In the rare cases when we do, it is because we planned it that way (we wanted to get away from it all and be adventurous). That still involved planning and thinking about the result you wanted to achieve.

So, even in the case when we take an impromptu trip or a wide-open adventure, we find that we wander around. Although we can enjoy ourselves, those are usually the times when really our goals were just that – enjoy ourselves and be free of boundaries. In other words, there was still a specific purpose being pursued.

Now, when we take a trip where we want to see or do specific things, we usually create a plan or an agenda. Planning does NOT mean being inflexible.

Planning does mean evaluating what we have and what we know, to determine how to use them and identify what or who we need to take so our journey can be successful. Planning does mean being detailed and direct about our long and short-term goals, as well as the exact end results we seek.

When we plan, we avoid pitfalls, anxiety, and fear; because we are prepared to function regardless of what situations – good or bad – we experience along the way.

Gives Us a Clear Vision of What We Are Attempting To Achieve

If we don’t know where we want to go, it’s difficult to map out how we are going to get there. Also, we often encounter detours in our travels. Similarly, we encounter detours in fulfilling our dreams.

But, if we have a dream and we are clear on it, we are better equipped to create our action plan, which gives us a “How To…” manual with the most efficient steps for achieving our dreams. We will also be able to measure our progress.

If we come across obstacles or issues, we will have the tools necessary to assist us in making decisions and/or revisions along the way. We can determine if we need to re-evaluate our steps and adjust them – turn right, turn left, or just turn around and start over to get back on track.

Additionally, we will understand how our decisions may impact our time and our efforts towards that end goal. Having the ability to clearly see where we are headed and having a definitive task list will help us to make positive progress.

If we can’t see our vision in our mind’s eye, then we can’t determine what we need to do to achieve that vision.

Provides Focus and a Sense of Control Instead of Chaos and Confusion

Identifying the specific purpose we are pursuing brings clarity to our situation. The comfort of knowing exactly what we are seeking and what our boundaries are puts us in control of our life and our pursuits.

Believing in our goals and dreams, having an action plan with clear instructions and directions to follow, gives us control of our efforts. So, instead of chaos and confusion, not knowing when to start or when to stop, we can efficiently channel our steps and manage the pursuit of our dreams ensuring that we achieve specific results.

Having control allows us to steer our life towards the result we desire. If we are out of control, we are at the mercy of others. This makes it very hard to accomplish what we want versus what they want. When we know what we want, we are better able to take control.

Otherwise, we wait for others to guide and direct us. But, when we have a specific purpose and expectations, we become self-guided and are prepared to create the efforts that will yield the results we desire.


Purpose Is Specific

Purpose is NOT generic. It is a specific intention, cause, desire, or reason that drives us. Having a specific navigating force will ultimately lead us on a course to a specific destination or end result.

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50 Apple Quotes from Co-Founder Steve Jobs

Apple quotes about one of the biggest brands in the world.

Apple is one of the most well-known brands in the world. From movies about co-founder Steve Jobs to Apple watches, iPhones, etc, the Apple brand is powerful, successful, and well known. One of the smartest things that Apple has done is tie their powerful Mac software together so that all of their products link together.

If you are looking for a phone, laptop, watch, or almost any technology, then Apple may be the brand for you. Apple products are dependable and once you learn how to use one of them, it easily translates over to their next device.

Apple Quotes About People and Courage

1. “You have to be burning with an idea, or a problem, or a wrong that you want to right. If you’re not passionate enough from the start, you’ll never stick it out.”

2. “Details matter, it’s worth waiting to get it right.”

3. “You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

4. “Everything is important- that success is in the details.”

5. “What we’re doing here will send a giant ripple through the universe.”

6. “You know who the best managers are? They’re the great individual contributors, who never ever want to be a manager, but decide they have to be manager because no one else is going to be able to do as good a job as them.”

7. “We at Apple had forgotten who we were. One way to remember who you are is to remember who your heroes are.”

8. “I think the world’s a better place because Bill realized that his goal isn’t to be the richest guy in the cemetery, right?”

9. “When you’re doing something for yourself, or your best friend or family, you’re not going to cheese out. If you don’t love something, you’re not going to go the extra mile, work the extra weekend, challenge the status quo as much.”

10. “If you keep your eye on the profit, you’re going to skimp on the product. But if you focus on making really great products, then the profits will follow.”

11. “I’m convinced that about half of what separates the successful entrepreneurs from the non-successful ones is pure perseverance.”

12. “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”

13. “Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.”

14. “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.”

15. “You can’t just ask customers what they want and then try to give that to them. By the time you get it built, they’ll want something new.”

16. “Be a yardstick of quality, some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected.”

Steve Jobs and Apple Quotes About Leadership and Technology

17. “It’s not about pop culture, and it’s not about fooling people, and it’s not about convincing people that they want something they don’t. We figure out what we want. And I think we’re pretty good at having the right discipline to think through whether a lot of other people are going to want it, too. That’s what we get paid to do.”

18. “This revolution, the information revolution, is a revolution of free energy as well, but of another kind: free intellectual energy.”

19. “The most compelling reason for most people to buy a computer for the home will be to link it to a nationwide communications network. We’re just in the beginning stages of what will be a truly remarkable breakthrough for most people — as remarkable as the telephone.”

20. “But good PR educates people. That’s all it is. You can’t con people in this business. The products speak for themselves.”

21. “The Web is not going to change the world, certainly not in the next 10 years. It’s going to augment the world. And once you’re in this Web-augmented space, you’re going to see that democratization takes place.”

22. “We’ve had one of these before when the dot-com bubble burst. What I told our company was that we were just going to invest our way through the downturn, that we weren’t going to lay off people, that we’d taken a tremendous amount of effort to get them into Apple in the first place — the last thing we were going to do is lay them off.”

23. “Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.”

24. “My job is to make the whole executive team good enough to be successors, so that’s what I try to do.”

25. “Apple’s goal isn’t to make money. Our goal is to design and develop and bring to market good products… We trust as a consequence of that, people will like them, and as another consequence, we’ll make some money. But we’re really clear about what our goals are.”

26. “I thought deeply about this. I ended up concluding that the worst thing that could possibly happen as we get big and as we get a little more influence in the world is if we change our core values and start letting it slide, I can’t do that. I’d rather quit.”

27. “I’ve always wanted to own and control the primary technology in everything we do.”

28. “Design is not just what it looks like and feels like, design is how it works.”

29. “Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.”

30. “Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.”

31. “I’m as proud of what we don’t do as I am of what we do.”

32. “It’s really hard to design products by focus groups. A lot of times, people don’t know what they want until you show it to them.”

33. “My job is not to be easy on people. My job is to make them better.”

Apple Quotes About Inspiration, Courage, and End Realizations From Steve Jobs

34. “I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life.”

35. “Much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on.”

36. “You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers.”

37. “Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

38. “And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

39. “I want to put a ding in the universe.”

40. “I’m the only person I know that’s lost a quarter of a billion dollars in one year… It’s very character-building.”

41. “Quality is more important than quantity. One home run is much better than two doubles.”

42. “Do you want to spend the rest of your life selling sugared water or do you want a chance to change the world?”

43. “Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me… Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me.”

44. “I was worth over $1 million when I was 23, and over $10 million when I was 24, and over $100 million when I was 25, and it wasn’t that important because I never did it for the money.”

45. “If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”

46. “I’ve always been attracted to the more revolutionary changes. I don’t know why. Because they’re harder. They’re much more stressful emotionally. And you usually go through a period where everybody tells you that you’ve completely failed.”

47. “My model for business is The Beatles: They were four guys that kept each others’ negative tendencies in check; they balanced each other. And the total was greater than the sum of the parts.”

48. “Simple can be harder than complex; you have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple.”

49. “Sometimes life is going to hit you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith.”

50. “We don’t get a chance to do that many things, and everyone should be really excellent. Because this is our life. Life is brief, and then you die, you know? And we’ve all chosen to do this with our lives. So, it better be damn good. It better be worth it.”

What did you learn from these Apple quotes?

Apple has done a great job of being a leader in technological advances over the years. The great thing about competition between excellent companies like Apple is that the consumer continues to get more dependable and creative products.

Apple is not successful because of luck. In fact, one of the things that have made Apple successful is their approach to how they treat and interact with their employees. Apple is inventive and creative because Apple does a great job of providing an atmosphere that encourages its employees to think outside the box, to be themselves, and to try new things with their products.

What’s your biggest takeaway from these Apple quotes and sayings? Do you have any other favorite quotes to add? Let us know in the comment section below.

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50 Soren Kierkegaard Quotes on Philosophy and Life

Søren Kierkegaard quotes to get to know a trailblazer in philosophy.

Søren Kierkegaard was a Danish philosopher and religious author who was believed to be the first existentialist philosopher. Born in 1813 to an affluent family in Copenhagen, Søren Kierkegaard, like all of us, was shaped a lot by his early childhood. His mother was a simple woman with little education, but she protected her children as best she could.

His father, on the other hand, was a stern man who was a well-off wool merchant. Although he seemed so stern, his father has an active imagination and in fact, their home was the site of many philosophical discussions, which surely shaped young Søren Kierkegaard.

Enjoy these Søren Kierkegaard quotes! And don’t forget to also check out these Francis Bacon quotes from the iconic English philosopher.

Best Søren Kierkegaard Quotes

1. “The function of prayer is not to influence God, but rather to change the nature of the one who prays.” – Søren Kierkegaard

2. “Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it.” – Søren Kierkegaard

3. “The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly one you’ll never have.” – Søren Kierkegaard

4. “Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.” – Søren Kierkegaard

5. “There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn’t true, the other is to refuse to believe what is true.” – Søren Kierkegaard

6. “The highest and most beautiful things in life are not to be heard about, nor read about, nor seen but, if one will, are to be lived.” – Søren Kierkegaard

7. “Once can advise comfortably from a safe port.” – Søren Kierkegaard

8. “Trouble is the common denominator of the living. It is the great equalizer.” – Søren Kierkegaard

9. “There is nothing with which every man is so afraid as getting to know how enormously much he is capable of doing and becoming.” – Søren Kierkegaard

10. “If anyone on the verge of actions should judge himself according to the outcome, he would never begin.” – Søren Kierkegaard

Inspirational Søren Kierkegaard Quotes

11. “Life can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forwards.” – Søren Kierkegaard

12. “It belongs to the imperfection of everything human that man can only attain his desire by passing through its opposite.” – Søren Kierkegaard

13. “People demand freedom of speech as a compensation for the freedom of thought which they seldom use.” – Søren Kierkegaard

14. “Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts.” – Søren Kierkegaard

15. “Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” – Søren Kierkegaard

16. “Life has its own hidden forces which you can only discover by living.” – Søren Kierkegaard

17. “It is essential, in relationships and all tasks, that we concentrate only on what is most significant and important.” – Søren Kierkegaard

18. “Once you label me you negate me.” – Søren Kierkegaard

19. “Boredom is the root of all evil – the despairing refusal to be oneself.” – Søren Kierkegaard

20. “It is one thing to introduce a new doctrine into the world, it is something else to live it.” – Søren Kierkegaard

Motivational Søren Kierkegaard Quotes

21. “To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. Not to dare is to lose oneself.” – Søren Kierkegaard

22. “During the first period of a man’s life, the greatest danger is not to take the risk.” – Søren Kierkegaard

23. “Face the facts of being what you are, for that is what changes what you are.” – Søren Kierkegaard

24. “Personality is only ripe when a man has made the truth his own.” – Søren Kierkegaard

25. “I feel as if I were a piece in a game of chess when my opponent says of it: That piece cannot be moved.” – Søren Kierkegaard

26. “Far from idleness being the root of all evil, it is rather the only true good.” – Søren Kierkegaard

Søren Kierkegaard Quotes About Love

27. “Love is all, it gives all, and it takes all.” – Søren Kierkegaard

28. “Don’t forget to love yourself.” – Søren Kierkegaard

29. “Love is the expression of the one who loves, not of the one who is loved. Those who think they can love only the people they prefer do not love at all. Love discovers truths about individuals that others cannot see.” – Søren Kierkegaard

30. “To cheat oneself out of love is the most terrible deception; it is an eternal loss for which there is no reparation, either in time or in eternity.” – Søren Kierkegaard

31. “When one has once fully entered the realm of love, the world — no matter how imperfect — becomes rich and beautiful, it consists solely of opportunities for love.” – Søren Kierkegaard

32. “Men think that it is impossible for a human being to love his enemies, for enemies are hardly able to endure the sight of one another. Well, then, shut your eyes–and your enemy looks just like your neighbor.” – Søren Kierkegaard

33. “All distinctions between the many different kinds of love are essentially abolished by Christianity.” – Søren Kierkegaard

34. “Unhappiness is not to love without being loved, but to be loved when one does not love.” – Søren Kierkegaard

35. “To love another in spite of his weaknesses and errors and imperfections is not perfect love. No, to love is to find him lovable in spite of and together with his weakness and errors and imperfections.” – Søren Kierkegaard

36. “The hidden life of love, in its most inward depths, is unfathomable, and still has a boundless relationship with the whole of existence. As the quiet lake is fed by the flow of hidden springs, which no eye sees, so a human being’s love is grounded in God’s love. If there were no spring at the bottom, if God were not love, there would be neither a lake nor human love.” – Søren Kierkegaard

37. “Love does not alter the beloved, it alters itself.” – Søren Kierkegaard

38. “In addition to my other numerous acquaintances, I have one more intimate confidant… My depression is the most faithful mistress I have known — no wonder, then, that I return the love.” – Søren Kierkegaard

39. “To love another person is to help them love God.” – Søren Kierkegaard

40. “Ulysses was not comely, but he was eloquent, Yet he fired two goddesses of the sea with love.” – Søren Kierkegaard

Other Søren Kierkegaard Quotes

41. “Take away paradox from the thinker and you have a professor.” – Søren Kierkegaard

42. “A man who as a physical being is always turned toward the outside, thinking that his happiness lies outside him, finally turns inward and discovers that the source is within him.” – Søren Kierkegaard

43. “It is wretched to have an abundance of intentions and a poverty of action, to be rich in truths and poor in virtues.” – Søren Kierkegaard

44. “If a person does not become what he understands, then he does not understand it either.” – Søren Kierkegaard

45. “If I could only have the experience of meeting a passionate thinker, that is, someone who honestly and honorably expressed in his life what he has understood!” – Søren Kierkegaard

46. “All existence-issues are passionate. To think about them so as to leave out passion is not to think about them at all. It is to forget the point that one indeed is oneself an existing person. To exist is an art. The subjective thinker is aesthetic enough for his life to have aesthetic content, ethical enough to regulate it, passionate enough in thinking to master it.” – Søren Kierkegaard

47. “The subjective thinker is continually striving, is always in the process of becoming. How far the subjective thinker might be along that road, whether a long way or a short, makes no essential difference (it is, after all, just a finitely relative comparison); as long as he is existing, he is in the process of becoming.” – Søren Kierkegaard

48. “The essential sermon is one’s own existence. A person preaches with this every hour of the day and with power quite different from that of the most eloquent speaker in his most eloquent moment. To let your mouth run with eloquent babbling when such talk is the opposite of your life is in the deepest sense nonsense. You become liable to eternal judgment.” – Søren Kierkegaard

49. “There are many people who arrive at conclusions in life much the way schoolboys do; they cheat their teachers by copying the answer book without having worked the problem themselves.” – Søren Kierkegaard

50. “To venture the truth is what gives human life and the human situation pith and meaning. To venture is the fountainhead of inspiration. Calculating is the sworn enemy of enthusiasm, the mirage whereby the earthly person drags out time and keeps the eternal away, whereby one cheats God, himself, and his generation.” – Søren Kierkegaard

What did you learn from these Søren Kierkegaard quotes and sayings?

Søren Kierkegaard was a man who believed in being friendly to everyone and valued a good discussion with anyone, rich or poor. He wanted everyone to know that there was at least one man in Copenhagen with who anyone could approach and freely discuss any subject. This most likely stemmed from seeing that his mother had been a maid, before marrying his more wealthy father.

Søren Kierkegaard was a very accomplished writer who wrote many things under a pseudonym so that people would approach the writing without preconceived ideas. Much of his work concentrated on living life as a “single individual” and how our life choices and experiences shape us.

What’s your biggest takeaway from these Søren Kierkegaard quotes and sayings? Do you have any other favorite quotes to add? Let us know in the comment section below.

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70 George Eliot Quotes About Love, Life and Friendship (2021)

We hope you enjoy this amazing collection of George Eliot quotes! Eliot might be from the Victorian era, but the words of this timeless author and journalist provide motivation, inspiration and wisdom about human nature that is relevant to our day-to-day lives.

We had a lot of fun searching for some of our favorite motivational George Eliot quotes!

George Eliot Quotes About Love, Life and Friendship

1. “Delicious autumn! My very soul is wedded to it, and if I were a bird I would fly about the earth seeking the successive autumns.” – George Eliot

2. “Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.” – George Eliot

3. “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” – George Eliot

4. “Animals are such agreeable friends – they ask no questions; they pass no criticisms.” – George Eliot

5. “It seems to me we can never give up longing and wishing while we are thoroughly alive. There are certain things we feel to be beautiful and good, and we must hunger after them.” – George Eliot

6. “It will never rain roses: when we want to have more roses we must plant more trees.” – George Eliot

7. “Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them.” – George Eliot

8. “What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?” – George Eliot

9. “Wear a smile and have friends; wear a scowl and have wrinkles.” – George Eliot

10. “I like not only to be loved, but also to be told that I am loved. I am not sure that you are of the same mind. But the realm of silence is large enough beyond the grave. This is the world of light and speech, and I shall take leave to tell you that you are very dear.” – George Eliot

11. “Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say, abstains from giving us wordy evidence of the fact.” – George Eliot

12. “A friend is one to whom one may pour out the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that gentle hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.” – George Eliot

13. “It is a narrow mind which cannot look at a subject from various points of view.” – George Eliot

Inspirational George Eliot Quotes about friendship

14. “What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life–to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?” – George Eliot

15. “It is always fatal to have music or poetry interrupted.” – George Eliot

16. “And, of course men know best about everything, except what women know better.” – George Eliot

17. “Life seems to go on without effort when I am filled with music.” – George Eliot

18. “We mortals, men and women, devour many a disappointment between breakfast and dinner-time; keep back the tears and look a little pale about the lips, and in answer to inquiries say, “Oh, nothing!” Pride helps; and pride is not a bad thing when it only urges us to hide our hurts— not to hurt others.” – George Eliot

19. “My own experience and development deepen everyday my conviction that our moral progress may be measured by the degree in which we sympathize with individual suffering and individual joy.” – George Eliot

20. “I wish to use my last hours of ease and strength in telling the strange story of my experience. I have never fully unbosomed myself to any human being; I have never been encouraged to trust much in the sympathy of my fellow-men.” – George Eliot

21. “Our deeds are like children that are born to us; they live and act apart from our own will. Nay, children may be strangled, but deeds never: they have an indestructible life both in and out of our consciousness.” – George Eliot

22. “An ass may bray a good while before he shakes the stars down.” – George Eliot

George Eliot quotes

23. “I’m proof against that word failure. I’ve seen behind it. The only failure a man ought to fear is failure of cleaving to the purpose he sees to be best.” – George Eliot

24. “The darkest night that ever fell upon the earth never hid the light, never put out the stars. It only made the stars more keenly, kindly glancing, as if in protest against the darkness.” – George Eliot

25. “The golden moments in the stream of life rush past us, and we see nothing but sand; the angels come to visit us, and we only know them when they are gone.” – George Eliot

26. “The difficulty is, to decide how far resolution should set in the direction of activity rather than in the acceptance of a more negative state.” – George Eliot

27. “Examining the world in order to find consolation is very much like looking carefully over the pages of a great book in order to find our own name. … Whether we find what we want or not, our preoccupation has hindered us from a true knowledge of the contents.” – George Eliot

28. “That modern sect of Flagellants who make a ritual of lashing — not themselves but — all their neighbours.” – George Eliot

29. “It’s but little good you’ll do a-watering the last year’s crop.” – George Eliot

George Eliot Quotes about life

30. “You know nothing about Hope, that immortal, delicious maiden forever courted forever propitious, whom fools have called deceitful, as if it were Hope that carried the cup of disappointment, whereas it is her deadly enemy, Certainty, whom she only escapes by transformation.” – George Eliot

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31. “It’s them as take advantage that get advantage i’ this world.” – George Eliot

32. “Best friend, my well-spring in the wilderness!” – George Eliot

33. “The happiest women, like the happiest nations, have no history.” – George Eliot

34. “A maggot must be born in the rotten cheese to like it.” – George Eliot

35. “In old days there were angels who came and took men by the hand and led them away from the city of destruction. We see no white-winged angels now. But yet men are led away from threatening destruction: a hand is put into theirs, which leads them forth gently towards a calm and bright land, so that they look no more backward; and the hand may be a little child’s.” – George Eliot

36. “In every parting there is an image of death.” – George Eliot

37. “We hand folks over to God’s mercy, and show none ourselves.” – George Eliot

38. “Our deeds determine us, as much as we determine our deeds.” – George Eliot

George Eliot quotes about love

39. “Be courteous, be obliging, but don’t give yourself over to be melted down for the benefit of the tallow trade.” – George Eliot

George Eliot quotes

40. “I think I should have no other mortal wants, if I could always have plenty of music. It seems to infuse strength into my limbs and ideas into my brain. Life seems to go on without effort, when I am filled with music.” – George Eliot

41. “Ignorance gives one a large range of probabilities.” – George Eliot

42. “The beginning of compunction is the beginning of a new life.” – George Eliot

43. “The important work of moving the world forward does not wait to be done by perfect men.” – George Eliot

44. “The reward of one duty is the power to fulfill another.” – George Eliot

45. “The strongest principle of growth lies in human choice.” – George Eliot

46. “We are all apt to believe what the world believes about us.” – George Eliot

47. “What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined… to strengthen each other… to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories.” – George Eliot

48. “Gossip is a sort of smoke that comes from the dirty tobacco-pipes of those who diffuse it: it proves nothing but the bad taste of the smoker.” – George Eliot

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49. “It is surely better to pardon too much, than to condemn too much.”― George Eliot

50. “I am not imposed upon by fine words; I can see what actions mean.”― George Eliot

Thought-provoking George Eliot quotes

51. “People are almost always better than their neighbors think they are.”― George Eliot

52. “No story is the same to us after a lapse of time; or rather we who read it
are no longer the same interpreters.”― George Eliot

53. “One can begin so many things with a new person! – even begin to be a better man.”― George Eliot

54. “Nothing is so good as it seems beforehand.”― George Eliot

55. “One must be poor to know the luxury of giving.”― George Eliot

56. “We have all got to exert ourselves a little to keep sane, and call things by the same names as other people call them by.”― George Eliot

57. “Blameless people are always the most exasperating.”― George Eliot

58. “It is better – it shall be better with me because I have known you.”― George Eliot

59. “I think I dislike what I don’t like more than I like what I like.”― George Eliot

60. “I like not only to be loved, but also to be told I am loved”― George Elliot

More George Eliot quotes and sayings

61. “Only in the agony of parting do we look into the depths of love.” – George Eliot

62. “If one is not to get into a rage sometimes, what is the good of being friends?” – George Eliot

63. “It is easy to say how we love new friends, and what we think of them, but words can never trace out all the fibers that knit us to the old.” – George Eliot

64. “I never had any preference for her, any more than I have a preference for breathing.” – George Eliot

65. “I should never like scolding anyone else so well; and that is a point to be thought of in a husband.” – George Eliot

66. “A woman may get to love by degrees—the best fire does not flare up the soonest.” – George Eliot

67. “Where women love each other, men learn to smother their mutual dislike.” – George Eliot

68. “I am afraid of nothing but that we should miss the passing of our lives together.” – George Eliot

69. “It will always remain true that if we had been greater, circumstance would have been less strong against us.” – George Eliot

70. “It is not true that love makes all things easy, it makes us chose things that are difficult.” – George Eliot

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